Start Believing in Yourself and You’ll Be Unstoppable

  Far too many people are settling for lives that are far below their potential largely because they don’t believe in themselves.  There was a time when that was me, and I can tell you, that lack of faith in myself was the source of many if not most of my problems in life. The way I see it now, though, is that none of us were born to … [Read more...]

5 Ways to Get Calm When Your Chattering Mind Won’t Shut Up

five habits I picked up that are now helping me tame my monkey mind and maintain my inner calm:

You may think that the circumstances or the people in your life are causing you stress and anxiety, but that’s not the truth.   The truth is your thoughts about those people and circumstances are what’s making you feel all gnarled up in knots. To be fair, I will concede that at times life can be hard … new cell phone versus concrete floor hard … [Read more...]

Get Up the Nerve to Quit a Job That’s Sucking the Life from You

I have a dream for my life and this isn’t it. I hate this job.  I hate every freaking day.  I want out.  I want out so badly … this job is stealing my life from me and I’m letting it happen.  I’m just accepting it because I have obligations.  Real obligations … the kind you can’t run away from. I can’t quit.  Not yet, anyway.     Plus, I’m … [Read more...]

Stop Scaring Yourself Already. Enough Is Enough.

Who doesn’t like a good story?  They’re entertaining.  Thought provoking.  They can be funny or serious … happy or sad.   Stories that take you on a roller coaster ride of emotions are fun when we’re talking about  a play or a movie.  It’s not so great when we allow the stories we tell ourselves to take us on a bumpy emotional ride. What are the … [Read more...]

Stop Getting on Thought Trains that Only Lead to Stress

Have you ever thought about how you think?    Sometimes it may seem like your mind has a “mind” of its own over which you have no control.  Yet, that’s not the truth. When a thought comes to mind, there is a presence within you that is not the thinker of that thought but rather the observer.    When you’re in “thinker” mode, you’re engaged in … [Read more...]

How to Stop Making Choices that Make You Miserable

We make a lot of choices in our lives.  We take on a lot of habits that we think will protect us and make our lives easier. We use our experiences to come up with our own list of “rules” of how life works and we play by those rules, even if we’re not always aware of the games we’re playing. Then one day, some of us look at our lives as say “What … [Read more...]

How Distorted Thinking Could Be Making You Unhappy

  Do you wear glasses or contact lenses?   If no, you lucky duck!  If yes, you lucky duck, too, because isn’t it great that we have eyewear options to help us see clearly?  We’re blessed either way.    It's all a matter of perspective. Those who’ve been examined for eye glasses or contacts will be able to relate to the metaphor I’m about … [Read more...]

62 Beliefs that Limit Your Happiness and Success

What beliefs are blocking your happiness?

Your behavior is a reflection of your beliefs.   In fact, you’ve developed many lifelong patterns based on your rock-solid beliefs that certain things are true while other things are untrue. Your beliefs aren’t necessarily congruent with universal truths or facts.    Your beliefs are about YOUR truths … truths that you will act from … truths … [Read more...]

25 Quotes that Will Inspire You to Stop Worrying Your Life Away

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Worrying has always fascinated me.  Why do we do it?  What purpose does it serve?   When we realize it’s so bad for us, why don’t we give it up? To get some perspective on the subject, I've been researching advice about worry ... or rather how not to worry ... from some of the greatest  thought leaders of all time.  Okay, you caught me.  Some of … [Read more...]

15 Quotes From the Best Graduation Speeches Ever

Timeless advice from the best graduation speeches of all time

Can you remember your graduation?  I remember mine.   Do you remember the commencement address?   I must confess, I'm a little foggier there. The year was 1983 and I sat in a hot church in Columbia, Missouri listening to award-winning journalist and best-selling author, Linda Ellerbee give the commencement address to my Journalism School’s … [Read more...]

The Lesson of the Telescope and the Microscope

How are you seeing your life?

How are you looking at your life?   Are you making the big stuff a priority in your life?   Or does the small stuff get all your time and attention? Through the lens of the telescope, we easily see large things that are far off in the distance.   They’re actually huge, but through the telescope they appear small to us. Through the … [Read more...]

The Most Important Thing to Remember When Life Is Really Hard

The gift of adversity

I hate to admit this, I really do, but here it is:  I've learned more in states of adversity than I've learned in times of smooth sailing. Why do I hate to admit this? Because I’m human.  I like smooth sailing. I love it when I feel like I’m on top of the world and things just keep getting better and better. Adversity is hard.   It challenges … [Read more...]

10 People Who Can Help You Improve Your Life … Dramatically!

The Art of Teaching

Have you ever read a book, had a teacher, or heard someone speak who changed your life? I have. In fact, it seems that every time I am struggling with something and I am open to new ideas, the right teacher “magically” arrives in my life at the perfect time. Over the years, these mentors have made an enormous difference in my ability … [Read more...]

What Are You Willing to Do to Be Happier?

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You want to be happy.  You're dreaming of being happy.  With your whole body and soul, you yearn to find happiness ... true lasting happiness ... the happiness that you know deep down in your heart has the potential to set you free. Yet, when you're put to the test of what you're willing to do to be happier, you throw up one objection after the … [Read more...]