10 People Who Can Help You Improve Your Life … Dramatically!

Have you ever read a book, had a teacher, or heard someone speak who changed your life?

I have. In fact, it seems that every time I am struggling with something and I am open to new ideas, the right teacher “magically” arrives in my life at the perfect time. Over the years, these mentors have made an enormous difference in my ability to:

  • Think more positively … and thus live more happily10 People Who Can Help You Improve Your Life … Dramatically!
  • Have the courage to face my fears 
  • Embrace my dreams, despite what I thought to be insurmountable obstacles 
  • Give up self-sabotaging habits that were holding me back 
  • Attract all manners of abundance into my life

Would you like to do any of the above? Yes? Great! Perhaps some of my favorite life teachers offer some wisdom that could help you.

Here are ten (many of whom I am sure you’ve heard of before) along with my all-time favorite quotes from these light workers:

1. Marianne Williamson     “Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life.

2. Wayne Dyer     “With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”

3. Louise Hay    “You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that. We think so often that we are helpless, but we’re not. We always have the power of our minds. Claim and consciously use your power.

4. Gabrielle Bernstein    “I am willing to see things differently. I am willing to see love.”

5. Bernie Siegel    “Embrace each challenge in your life as an opportunity for self-transformation.”

6. Caroline Myss     “The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind”

7. Cheryl Richardson   “Your best teacher is the person offering you your greatest challenge.”

8. Deepak Chopra    “Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.”

9. Michael Bernard Beckwith     “You can start with nothing, and out of nothing and out of no way, a way will be made.”

10. Robert Holden     “No amount of self-improvement can make up for any lack of self-acceptance.”

These inspiring men and women have taught me so much … and I suspect they have lessons that can benefit you, too!

 

Who have been your most important teachers and mentors?  What are the best lessons you learned from them?

 

 

 

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4 Replies to “10 People Who Can Help You Improve Your Life … Dramatically!”

  1. Good for you. Very impressive, I am sorry you didn’t share all of this with me, but proud of the effort and direction you are taking. Go do it!

  2. Hello J.Marie,

    I have been struggling for a long time and cannot seem to get out of it. I have tied psychiatrists, psychologists, life coaches, professional coaches, friends, family, etc… Basically, I have tried to speak with everyone and I cannot seem to get any traction. I cannot seem to get out of my depression, lack of interest, sadness, self worthlessness, etc… I am not blaming anyone for it, including myself. Perhaps I should blame myself for not being able to combat these demons that have taken everything that I possess (and I am not speaking of material things) away from me.

    I feel entrapped, like a bird… However, I cannot figure out if I hold the key to the cage or someone else does. Most of the time, I feel that the door to the cage is wide open and I see myself standing at the perch trembling in fear…. trembling so badly that I go back into the corner of the cage and cover my eyes… This way, I do not see anyone and perhaps no one can see me, or care to see me.

    I have been struggling with these feelings for quite some time (at least few years). However the fear has heightened to new unbearable levels in the last 4 years.

    Not sure what to do or try next

    1. Jim — I need to preface my response here with this fact: please know that I’m not a professional psychiatrist or psychologist. So you’re speaking with someone who is not credentialed in that way. I urge you to continue to seek professional help, my advice could never be a substitute for that.

      I am a person who cares about people though, and I too have felt a generous amount of pain and deep depression in my life, and I can testify that it can get better.

      I can feel your pain emanating from your words … and I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve felt this way for so long. My heart goes out to you. This may not help to know, but do know that you’re not alone. The feeling of being trapped, stuck, and not knowing what to do is something you share with many people. The grip that the added depression and anxiety have on you during these times can seem more powerful than you, but remain open to the possibility that there is hope — relief is possible.

      You are right: blame is not the answer — to blame yourself or others solves nothing.

      Looking for “a” key is pointless, too … as there is no one key or magic potion or spell that will make everything better all at once.

      Isolation is a common response in times like these, but the more you isolate, the more “stuck” you’ll be with escalating thoughts and feelings that keep you in the prison that you’ve created in your mind. You need relief, but the relief won’t come from hiding or avoiding, but rather by being willing to reach out … to see the world differently … to change the patterns that you unintentionally adopted that keep you where you don’t want to be.

      Allow yourself to be open to the idea that your thoughts are just thoughts — they are not reality. You can choose different thoughts … you don’t have to keep ruminating day after day on the thoughts that drag you down. Those thoughts might pop into your head — but you can immediately say “NO! I’m not going there” — and choose more uplifting thoughts.

      There are a lot of lessons one can learn from the Recovery movement in times like these — probably the most important of which is to turn to your Higher Power for help (a Higher Power of your understanding … which has NOTHING to do with religion). Another lesson: live one day at a time — do not try to tackle a lifetime of pain and problems all at once. I personally believe that one can be as addicted to pain and depression as one can be to drugs, alcohol, gambling and anything else. That’s why I draw strength from the tools of the 12-step recovery movement.

      There is other wisdom out there that can help, too — namely, that which you seek you must first give:
      *If you want love, focus on giving love
      *If you want kindness in your life, focus on giving kindness
      *If you want to stop thinking thoughts that torment you, start thinking of what you can do to help others

      The best way to change habits to not to resist them, as what you resist persists (I know that sounds trite, but there is truth in it). The best way to change is to embrace something more positive and when you take up the challenge of helping others it will change your life dramatically.

      Please know that when you’re giving to others, though, this must be done expecting nothing in return from them … yet in time, what you give will come back to you in ways you’d never imagine. You may not think you have the strength to do this, but you do. Start small. Give a smile (even if you don’t feel like … in fact … especially if you don’t feel like it!). Pick up some trash someone has left behind — offering no judgment of them at all. Do some yard work for someone who can’t do it for themselves. Volunteer somewhere Etc. Think creatively on what you can do, knowing that even small actions matter.

      Take care of your body too — take a walk … lift a few hand weights … learn yoga or Tai Chi … get moving. Exercise of any kind offers relief. You may not feel like doing it — in fact you probably won’t at first — do it anyway.

      Lastly, gratitude creates miracles in your life. There is always something to be grateful for — make it a mission to find things to be grateful for every day … in fact … every hour of every day. When you focus on the positive, the negative cannot stay in your life … its hold will be weakened, and in time, you’ll see it dissipate.

      Life is not as impossible as it sometimes seems; please stay in faith that it can get better. Also, LOVE YOURSELF throughout this process. Self-judgment and criticism will keep you trapped — self-love and self-encouragement will free you (and to this end — if you’ve never read Louise Hay’s “You Can Heal Your Life” book — do it — and watch the accompanying video, too!)

      Sending you my prayers and hopes that the light will dawn for you very, very soon.

      Peace and blessings to you,

      J. Marie

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