If you’re not seeing the success you want from any area of your life, it’s probably because you’re in dire need of a mindset shift.
You see, the secret to falling in love with your life (and getting what you want from it!) boils down to certain mindsets that drive all positive results. If you’ve been struggling in your life, it’s because you are out of alignment with one or more of five mindset requirements. The good news is, a simple shift in how you think can open up new worlds of opportunities and new levels of happiness and success for you.
Ready to Love Your Life? Make These 5 Mindset Shifts …
The Universe Is for Me, Not Against Me
Albert Einstein once said, “The most important decision we make is whether we believe in a friendly or hostile universe.”
We act from our beliefs. When we believe the odds are stacked against us and we’re likely to fail, then we are indeed likely to fail. When we believe we have a decent chance of getting what we want, we act from that hopeful belief, and our actions tend to lead to positive results more often than not.
When you approach the world as though the people you meet and the circumstances you face are there for your ultimate good, then you become a magnet for attracting what you want into your life. Even rejections become redirections to something better.
Will you always be right? No. I’m not naïve, and I won’t deny the existence of evil and ugliness in the world; it does exist. I’m simply stating that I prefer to see those as the exception. On balance, I choose to see the universe as good.
Wayne Dyer said, “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” You get to decide whether you are going to look at the world as a hostile place that’s out to get you or a wonderful place with opportunities galore. Only one of those choices will lead to the happy, successful life you want. [Related article: Trust Life More]
I’m Proud of Who I Am
Who are you? Do you like yourself? Do you feel good about yourself? Do you believe in yourself?
These are questions worth giving careful consideration.
Think about the very best version of yourself. Are your actions, thoughts, and words aligned with the person you most want to be? When your behaviors are not aligned with who you truly want to be, your self-image suffers. Confidence plummets. You may start to feel defeated, as though you aren’t good enough.
Being proud of yourself does not mean brandishing an attitude of arrogance and self-righteousness. Frankly, people who exhibit those behaviors are often covering up deep insecurities, expressed in the ugliest ways. Being proud of yourself simply means that you feel good about who you are and feel positive about your actions.
When you shift your mindset to “I’m proud of who I am,” you then act from that place of self-confidence and high self-worth. When you’re proud of yourself, it’s as if you’re announcing to the world that you are a person of high standards. You act from a place of contribution and collaboration, and more times than not, the world responds in kind. [Related article: How to Believe in Yourself]
I’m Clear About What I Want
I spent years being unclear about what I wanted. My indecisiveness caused me a lot of pain and missteps that I could have avoided. I felt like the little steel ball in a pinball machine, getting whacked around each time a flipper hit me. Sometimes I’d end up in a place where I scored big points, but more often than not I headed straight for the out-of-bounds alley … no points, no bonus, game over.
When you’re not clear about what you want, you’ll end up underwhelmed with what you get. Those who know what they want are far more likely to experience positive results.
By the way, when I say to be precise about what you want for your life, I’m not just talking about stuff. Sure, go ahead and make your vision board complete with pictures of a five-bedroom home in a hoity-toity neighborhood and a speedboat and a lake house. If you set out a plan to achieve it and work hard, you can get those things.
More importantly, though, I’m talking about what matters MOST in your life. How do you want to feel each day? Who do you see around you when you’re at your happiest? In what way will the world be better for your having lived?
Your time on this planet is limited, and the clock is ticking. Don’t allow your days to be distracted by anything that takes you way from what you want. [We have a free tool to help get a clear vision for your life: It’s called How to Create a Compelling Vision for Your Life … grab your copy now!]
I’m the Captain of My Ship
If you’re waiting for someone to rescue you, forget about it. Rescuers can help for a moment in time, but they can never step in and control your life for you. When anyone tries to do that, it always backfires.
You’re in charge of your life. You’re at the wheel. Don’t let anyone else take it … and for heaven’s sake, don’t try to blame anyone else for the things you don’t like about your life. Blame is unproductive and, frankly, childish.
Remember that even when you’re faced with difficult situations or circumstances, you always get to choose how to respond. You are always in charge of you.
If It’s to Be, It’s Up to Me
You not only have to take ownership for your life, but you also have to take action. Dreams remain just dreams if you don’t step forward and do something to bring them to fruition.
Forward-focused action (in other words, productive activity and not activity for activity’s sake) is required to achieve what you want. You don’t have to take huge steps all at once. One small step and then the next, repeated day after day will take you to your goals. [Related article: Take Responsibility for Your Life]
There’s nothing that can stop the power of a determined person with a strong vision and deep desire, and who is willing to do work hard to make their dreams come to pass. It’s the way to whatever you want.
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No amount of self-improvement can make up for a lack of self-acceptance. … Dare to be more of you! Show the world who you really are!” ~ Robert Holden