You Deserve to Live a Happy, Fulfilling Life!
You are here to live a big, bold, juicy life where you experience bucketloads of love, joy, beauty, adventure, and abundance.
You are here to give your special gifts to the world … gifts that only you can give. You’re here to live a confident, whole-hearted life of deep meaning and true fulfillment. You’re here to have caring and supportive relationships in your life because love is what life is really all about.
If you’re like many people, that’s just not the life you’re experiencing right now and you’re beyond frustrated. You’re ready to change. That’s where we were not that long ago and we decided it was time for a radical change. And, the more I asked other people about their lives, the more I realized that A LOT of us were ready for a change and I wanted to help.
I’m J. Marie Novak and in my small way, I hope to use Believe and Create as a forum to plant seeds of inspiration that might help others to believe in themselves and create the lives they were meant to live.
Life can be hard. It can be confusing. It can be overwhelming. I’ve found that somewhere along the road, many of us begin to lose faith in ourselves. We doubt what’s possible. We put self-imposed limits on our lives, then we wonder how we got so far off the path of what we once dreamed of achieving.
My message to all … no matter how old or how young … no matter where you are or what resources you have at your disposal … is that if you are still on this earth and are able to draw breath, you are here for a reason. You are a special person with unique talents and gifts that were given only to you.
I urge you – don’t let your dreams die. And, if you believe they have, know that there’s still a spark within you, there are still embers burning within that you can flame to resurrect your hopes or create new dreams for your life.
Here’s My Story: Who I Am and Why I Launched Believe and Create
Wayne Dyer calls it “The Shift” … that point in your life where you make a decision that you can no longer go on in living your life the way you’ve been living it. That point where the vain demands of the ego pale in comparison to the deep longing of the soul.
On the surface, my life wasn’t bad. It was highly unbalanced, yet there were blessings. I had a high-paying job in a corner office. Sure, at times it was in a pressure-cooker atmosphere fraught with the political game-playing that I imagine is common in a lot of workplaces. Yet, it had its benefits too, of which financial security topped the list.
I was in that job 22 years, much of that time I was in the right place at the right time. Yet, something was happening. With each passing year I was becoming more and more discontent …more and more aware that there was something else I should be doing with my life.
I was one of those single women who’d poured her whole life into her career … partly out of choice and partly because I really didn’t have the confidence in myself to do anything else. I felt like work was the only thing I was ever any good at. I feared uncertainty. I feared change.
The days at the office began getting harder and harder to bear. Each day was like trying to squeeze into a size 4 dress when you’re a size 14 … my life just didn’t fit.
I felt unsettled. Drained of energy. A cog in a wheel. I knew something was missing, something very, very important. I was sick and tired of living an uninspired life.
Time was ticking away; the clock seemed to be spinning faster than ever. I felt like I was on a moving sidewalk being rushed through life in a semi-conscious state. I knew if I didn’t do something to wake up, I’d soon arrive at the end of my life only to regret that I had not truly lived the full breadth and depth of what was possible.
I was sad. I was restless. I was depressed, deeply depressed. And, I didn’t want to feel that way anymore.
I wanted to wake up. I wanted to feel alive. On my knees I cried from the depths of my soul for something to change and the message came back loud and clear:
YOU have to be the one who steps up to make a change. Divine grace and guidance are here for you, but you must be brave enough to step forward to receive it.
That meant facing my fears.
That meant letting go of my financial security.
That meant leaping into the unknown.
Perhaps most importantly, that meant believing in myself and in the strength of Divine love to carry me wherever my life was meant to go.
Thus began my season of massive transformation … my “shift” that Dyer speaks about.
Transformation Begins with Transforming the Mind. Then Action Is Required.
I’ve always thought the word “transformation” was such a beautiful word, but as a concept it’s a little scary to apply to life … to give up what you’ve known for the hope of a more beautiful yet unknown future.
I wonder if caterpillars realize they are born to become butterflies. If they understand that by entering the cocoon, they’ll soon gain the gift of flight and beauty, I imagine they gladly agree to the transition process. If they don’t, the transition would be a total leap of faith.
I guess in either case, butterflies really don’t have a choice … transition is in their DNA. The butterfly’s path to undergo radical change in their lifetimes is predetermined before they are born.
Perhaps that’s true for us humans, too. Perhaps I had to enter that period of deep darkness and radical change before I could reemerge into the light.
I didn’t have a clear vision of what would be next. All I knew was that I wanted to shout from the rooftops “there has to be more people – stop accepting a mediocre life!” I believe that inner urge to belt that message out revealed one piece of my life’s mission … I had a deep desire to not only wake up, but to encourage others who are enduring the unrelenting pain of an uninspired, unfulfilled life to wake up, too.
Yet, how could I be a troubadour or teacher to anyone when I’m just a toddler at this brand new whole-hearted, whole-soul living thing? I didn’t really know.
Humble Beginnings with a Supportive Community
In the fall of 2012 I began a Facebook page called the “Believe and Create Community” and in early 2013 the website was launched. Why was I leaning in this direction? As corny as it sounds, I felt a calling … a calling to wake others up just as I’d been poked and prodded to wake up.
I felt a calling to bring like-minded people together where they could be supported, encouraged, and loved … and where they could offer that same support, encouragement, and love back to one another. A true community. A true tribe of sorts where everyone is committed to living big lives with open hearts … where each member of the community is committed to heeding their soul’s longing.
I can’t say that I’m crystal clear on what my full purpose is, much less how to give you a step-by-step plan for finding yours. (And on the super-practical side, my financial safety net is gone … I’m walking this stage of my journey in pure faith.) Yet, as I get closer and closer to understanding what I’ve been put on this earth to do, I recognize two big truths about my life:
1. I must believe in myself. This is true for you, too. You cannot live your life to its fullest if you’re not willing to bet on you!
2. I must take responsibility for creating the life I was born to live. You must do the same.
My life is not some random accident, neither is yours.
We were given talents and the gifts of our life’s experiences for a reason. We are each here to shine our light in this world and we must own that sacred responsibility.
We are each responsible for creating the wonderful life we were born to live. None of us were born to merely work, eat, pay bills, endure hardships, then die. That’s no way to live!
Your life is meant to be fabulous … filled with love, joy, peace, harmony, beauty, grace, fun, freedom, and abundance in all its magnificent forms. That doesn’t mean life is a cakewalk … challenges have their place, which is to help us learn and grow.
Life comes with loss, that’s guaranteed. In fact, the one thing we know with each birth is that one day there will be death. When you’re young you think you have forever, but you don’t. As you age you realize it all flies by so quickly … each day of your life is precious and there really is no time to waste.
Many people never even come close to realizing their full potential … the traps and snares and distractions of life get in their way. But you, you’re different. You seek the light that brought you here … you want to be that light for others. That’s what I want , too.
Wake up dear one, wake up!
As the B&C movement unfolds, there will be more and more opportunities to gather and share and discuss our hopes and dreams with each other, as well as envision practical ways to see those hopes and dreams realized. But the step required right now is simply this:
Commit to believing in yourself and creating the amazing life you were put on this magnificent earth to live!
Every act of radical transformation starts with the willingness to say “yes” to change. To say “yes” to going after what you really want. To say “yes” to life. I urge you, say YES to yourself today!
Your friend in soulful, whole-hearted living,
~ J. Marie Novak, Founder of The Believe and Create Movement
P.S. The name “J. Marie” is actually a tribute to my parents – John and Marie, who passed on more than 20 years ago, dying too soon in my opinion. My name is Janette Marie … but I wanted to bring the loving presence of both of my parents to this page. They weren’t perfect people and their journey on this earth was not without pain or problems. Still, their spirit is still within me and that is why I choose to pay tribute to their lives by leading B&C in their honor as J. Marie.
FINAL & IMPORTANT NOTE .. THIS IS NOT A MEDICAL/HEALTH SITE:
I’m not a psychologist or psychiatrist – I claim no special skills or degrees in counseling or ministry. I don’t espouse any specific religion or dogma on this site. If you need professional help or ministry, I urge you to seek qualified professional help or spiritual guidance elsewhere.
What I am … who I am … is a real-life person just like you, with real-life challenges, real doubts and real dreams. I’m a traveler on this journey and if you’re reading this I believe our paths have crossed for a reason. We can learn from each other. After all, that’s what life’s all about … reaching out to others … offering kindness … sharing our gifts and the love we were given.
Thank you for visiting here today and I encourage you to be a part of the Believe and Create community by participating in dialogues offered here, as well as on Facebook, Pinterest, and Twitter
A NOTE FOR THOSE WITH SPECIAL, URGENT NEEDS: If you are experiencing significant pain, including thoughts of hurting yourself or others, please seek professional help immediately.