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Think of the ways your life would change if you started to accept yourself. The possibilities are endless!
Sadly for many people, self-acceptance is a relatively foreign concept. They know what the concept is, well, sort of anyway, but they are just not sure the idea could ever apply to them. If you fall into this category, take heart, you are not alone.
There’s nothing wrong with you.
Let me repeat that statement one more time so you can take it in more fully: There’s nothing wrong with you.
How does that concept make you feel? Maybe it filled you with a sense of relief … it affirmed that you’re okay and that made you feel better. Or, maybe your mind flat-out rejected the idea, saying something like “Baloney! There are lots of things wrong with me … you don’t know me and you don’t know what you’re talking about!” Perhaps it was a blend of these responses or something else entirely.
There’s nothing wrong with you.
What does that statement even mean? So many of us are walking around in life feeling broken or weary or wounded in some way … thinking we’re not good enough or we’re not worthy enough. We count up our faults and use them as evidence that we’re defective. We work on improving ourselves, certain we must reject who we are to become the person we’re capable of being. We’re looking for the fix to make everything better. But what if … I urge you to open your mind to this idea for just a moment … what if there’s nothing really wrong with you after all?
Our bodies may not be functioning at 100% … I’m not denying the existence of illness. Yet, our bodies are not “who we are” … they are the vessels that carry our souls in this life on earth.
Who we are … who we truly are … arrived on earth with everything we need for our life journey. We came complete … whole … there was nothing wrong with us from day one. And, nothing we can do can change that.
Can our behaviors be wrong? Yes – they can, for instance, it is wrong to deliberately hurt another person. Can our thinking be wrong? Well, I’m not sure “wrong” is the correct word, but certainly we can perceive things in a way that brings us stress instead of peace. Still, who you are at your core is who you are meant to be, and in that sense, there’s nothing wrong with you.
Why Is it So Important to Accept Yourself?
I find that when we really love and accept and approve of ourselves exactly as
we are, then everything in life works. ~ Louise Hay
Self-acceptance doesn’t mean you don’t want to change. Quite the contrary, it often leads to dramatic change as you give up the limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging behaviors that you’d adopted trying to be someone you’re not. The secret to finding the happiness and peace you seek in your life is not in trying to figure out what’s wrong with you; instead, your aim is to explore the truth of who you really are.
Perhaps this analogy might help. Imagine your vision is getting blurry so you go to the eye doctor and get a prescription for new pair of glasses. A mistake is made in the lab and the actual lenses you receive are far too strong; the glasses not only make your vision worse, they give you headaches. You realize the problem so you go back and get the prescription that is correct for you. With these new lenses, the world appears sharper, crisper, and more beautiful. You see the world around you more clearly.
Self-acceptance is like putting on that wonderful new pair of glasses with the perfect prescription for you. You see every action and thought you have in a new light … the way it really is rather than how you’d once imagined the world to be (the world you saw through the lenses that weren’t right for you .. the world that gave you headaches!). Little by little, you’re able to let go of past patterns … pretense falls away … you embrace the authentic you.
You accept yourself, you love yourself, and your world becomes rich with a sense of peace and happiness that may have alluded you for years.
We are constantly invited to be who we are. ~ Henry David Thoreau
There is nothing wrong with you. Know this and live your life being true to you. If you’ve not listened to your inner guidance for a while, it may take time to get reacquainted with the true you, but I promise, the “journey to you” will be worth the effort!
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Consider your actions carefully this week. Observe all the times when you criticize yourself or hide your true nature for fear someone else will judge you for being who you truly are.
Ask yourself these questions:
- In what areas am I most critical of myself? How does that make me feel? Does it ever help me rise or is it just keeping me down?
- In what ways am I being unloving towards myself? What alternative behavior can I choose to demonstrate that I truly do love myself?
- How do I reject my true self by pretending to be someone I’m not so others will like and accept me?
- What am I doing because I think others want me to do it, not because I think it is the right thing to do for me?
Whenever you feel yourself moving away from self-acceptance, choose instead to align your actions with what you know deep-down is truly right for you.
Paying attention to your thoughts and actions takes time and practice. The benefits in terms of peace, joy, happiness, and more are well worth the effort! Wishing you peace and many blessings on your journey.
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