Some people struggle with what overthinking truly looks like. They wonder are they just being thorough or are they going too far?
Have you ever been told, “you’re overthinking this”? Or have you ever felt certain you were overthinking something but didn’t know what else to do? When you wonder whether you’re overthinking something, you probably are.
Life doesn’t always make sense. It just doesn’t. And frankly, sometimes it doesn’t make sense to such a ridiculous degree that my entire body yearns to scream “C’mon already – this is ridiculous!” So I go into overthinking mode. I decide if I can just figure out why my world isn’t working the way I think it should, then I’ll finally have peace and happiness.
Could You Be an Overthinking Addict?
Hey, I’m a realist. Maybe I haven’t traveled far enough down this road to be anywhere close to true enlightenment just yet, but any good highway system would have included a comfortable rest stop or two for us weary travelers somewhere along the way. Frankly, today I’m feeling like this road just bites.
Am I overthinking this life thing? That sounds like me. I guess I have gleaned one ounce of self-knowledge along the way: I overthink things.
Oh man, that’s not even the half of it, though. I not only overthink things: I secretly foster the belief that I’m in control and I get downright cranky when the world proves otherwise to me.
Then a massive tree falls in my yard. The dishwasher breaks. The medical center screws up my bill for the umpteenth time. he pain in my foot returns with a vengeance. Yes, I know these are all merely annoyances, things you’ve got to deal with but not so big that they should send you over the edge. In fact, I realize I should stop my whining already – I have a yard, I have a house, I have access to health care, and I have a foot that works.
Dang it. Now I feel guilty because, despite all my blessings, I’m staring at a void that’s leaving me dazed and confused and feeling totally lost. I’m ruminating on the big questions that cut to the core and they’ve ganged up to demand my full attention right here, right now:
- What am I supposed to be doing with my life?
- Why does everything seem so unbearably difficult?
- Why do I feel so alone all the time?
- Why am I not experiencing the peace and joy and wonder that everyone talks about?
- What is this whole freakin’ being on this planet thing even about?
Am I alone in this? Am I the only one who loses her sense of direction more often than I think I should? So what is the answer to feeling dazed and confused and totally lost … and stuck in a cycle of overthinking that robs me of peace and happiness?
The Cure for Overthinking That Is Guaranteed to Work
I realize that you’ve taken the time to read this and so the proper thing for me to do here is to provide some answers. I’m sweating this a little right now because I’m not sure how you’re going to take the advice I intend to dish out. On the surface, it may seem trivial and it certainly won’t come across as guru-like as you might prefer. But here’s the answer that comes to me today:
CHILL THE HECK OUT!
Yup. That’s it. Chill out … the same advice one would give a teen who was freaking out over the mall being sold out of the “right” style of Topsiders.
When life isn’t making sense, you know what that’s called? Life. That’s how it works. You have control over your responses to it and over the choices you make, but you don’t have control over all the hills and valleys and detours along the way, so stop acting like you do.
Overthinking is not my friend and it’s not your friend either. It’s time to get out of your head … take a few deep breaths … and for goodness sake, stop paying attention to the internal voices that demand that you have all the answers to everything right here and now. That’s your ego yammering on and on and it really has no idea what it’s talking about. You’ll never have all the answers and you don’t need to. Never, ever, ever.
This episode of being dazed and confused and totally lost that you’re going through right now will come to an end. Your soul’s compass will guide you if you’ll just let it. It can’t do that if you won’t give it space to do its work. The point of life isn’t to think your way through it, it’s to love yourself through it … and love the others around you through it.
When you’re overwhelmed, then do whatever it takes to create your own dang rest stop and invite others into it. Have a little fun. Let your hair down. Laugh more. You know, just chill out. Then before you know it, answers to the real questions you actually need answers to show up … all at the perfect time.
Wishing much peace, love, joy, and abundance on your journey, J. Marie Novak, Founder, Believe and Create
Discussion questions — What situations or circumstances in your life leave you feeling dazed, confused, and totally lost? How have you emerged successfully from these times in your life? What are the best ways you’ve found for “chilling out?” Leave your ideas and thoughts in the ”SPEAK YOUR MIND” section below.