There are certain days in your life where nothing seems to be going your way but you’ve never really figured out what to do when you’re having a bad day. Now is a great time to rethink your entire thought process about what a bad day really is.
No one really has a bad life. Not even a bad day. Just bad moments.” ~ Regina Brett
One of the worst feelings in this world is when you know you are about to have a bad day. You haven’t even gotten out of bed yet, and you can already feel the universe working against you.
Sometimes it’s because of a bad experience from the previous day, an unpleasant dream, or maybe for no reason at all. All you know is that you are in for a ride today.
However, the trick to changing your fate and making sure negativity doesn’t follow in your shadow for the rest of the day is actually quite simple. If you build a shield of positivity around you, not much will penetrate it.
Here’s What to Do When You’re Having a Bad Day …
Here are some of the steps you can take in order to turn a bad day right side up:
- Know that your mind is the biggest culprit.
Be aware that your mind is what controls how your day is going. It’s not about what is happening to you, but about how you react to it. Often when we are having a bad day, our thoughts take us to worse places than what is our current reality.
We allow one unpleasantry dictate our thoughts about everything else around us. All of a sudden, the stress from the traffic on your way to work brings up thoughts about the emails you are not looking forward to ravaging through.
When your mind gets clouded with such negativity, all you are going to see and feel is that negativity. Those emails that could have been quick and painless will now feel like they are one problem after another.
We must believe that the world is not out there conspiring against us. It is only giving us what we project out into it.
- Be overly positive.
This may seem ridiculous at first, maybe even fake.
Nonetheless, “positivity,” just like its evil sister “negativity,” spreads like wildfire, getting stronger and stronger the longer you wait to fight them. When you make the extra effort to put out positivity around you, eventually, it will be strong enough to hold itself.
So how can you become overly positive?
Reach out to somebody with an act of compassion. Tell a friend you are thankful for them. Treat yourself to something that makes you happy. Think about all of the reasons you can be grateful. Smile and say “Good Morning!” to the people that pass you by. Listen to your favorite song and dance.
The important thing is to be active in your pursuit of happiness on a daily basis. Get the ball rolling, and happiness will catch up with you.
- When things do come crashing down, accept them.
Sometimes no matter how much you try, things will inevitably come crashing down. Things happen that are out of your control.
The reason we freak out when something goes wrong is because we feel a loss of control. Instead of letting that fear and anxiety disturb us, we must learn to take a deep breath and accept the situation.
Accepting the situation means not thinking of the thousand reasons why this makes your life more difficult. Don’t get trapped into thinking about the negative outcomes of your problems. Instead, spend your time and energy figuring out how to either fix your problems or to make them work.
Keep in mind that you will get through this. All of our problems seem like giant mountains at first. It is when we take a deep breath and sharpen our focus that we realize we have the strength and skill to climb them.
- Pick your battles.
Often the things we get most angry about don’t actually matter. It is important that we learn to have a perspective on our issues. Some things are going to be worth a fight, but most we should just let go.
When faced with issues ask yourself, “Does this really matter to me?”
It is never wise to waste your time being upset over something that is a waste of your time. You can be much happier when you don’t let everything that you come across affect your happiness.
Be in control of your own happiness. Pick what is worth your time, energy, and attention and then let the rest pass you by.
- There is always a tomorrow.
Remember that the sun will always rise again. Tomorrow will always be a new day filled with new highs and new lows.
Even if all of your efforts to make today better fail, leave those troubles in the past. Don’t let the problems of your past affect your present, let alone your future.
With each new day, there is a new opportunity to find happiness. Do your best to look for it.
“Isn’t it nice to think that tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet?” ~ L.M. Montgomery
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Natalia Lachova is passionate about art, philosophy, and positive psychology. She graduated with a BA in Art History with the intent of using creativity as a therapeutic and motivational tool to help others. She is a contributor for Happyness where she shares her experiences and tools for living a happier life. Connect with Natalia on LinkedIn.