Why You Should Date Yourself (Plus 39 Self-Date Ideas)

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Have you ever considered going on a date with yourself? Solo dating is gaining popularity for several reasons: it’s a wonderful act of self-care and a terrific way to spend time doing what you want, where and when you want. Plus, you’re a lot of fun, so why not spend some time with yourself?

What Is Solo Dating?

When you go on a self-date, you intentionally block some time to spend by yourself, indulging in activities that bring joy and relaxation and cultivate a deeper sense of self-awareness. The self-date concept stems from the broader idea of self-care, emphasizing the importance of nurturing your own company and creating a loving relationship with yourself.

Self-dating challenges the societal notion that you always need to be with someone to enjoy fun and meaningful activities.  It’s about granting yourself permission to enjoy your own company and prioritize your happiness and well-being

Why Would You Want to Date Yourself?

The reasons for self-dating are as unique as the individuals themselves. For some, it’s a way to recharge in solitude, finding peace away from the noise and distractions of everyday life. For others, it’s a form of self-discovery, an opportunity to explore interests and passions without outside influence or judgment. 

You can’t always find someone who wants to share in the activities and hobbies you enjoy— but there’s no reason to let the absence of a companion keep you from doing things you want to do.

Self-dating can significantly boost self-compassion and self-esteem, as it is a practice of treating oneself with the same level of care and consideration that we often reserve for others.

Self-dating doesn’t replace traditional dating; it’s just a way to augment your life by providing you with pleasurable outlets to enjoy all life has to offer, even when there’s no partner available to join in the fun.

Are Solo Dates Healthy?

While it’s unhealthy to self-isolate and avoid spending time with others, it’s just as important to your mental well-being to enjoy spending time alone. So, yes, solo dates are healthy.  Dating yourself can add joy to your life, helping you reduce stress and anxiety while bolstering your self-image.  Solo dating is a way to enrich your life, not replace time spent with friends and loved ones. 

examples of types o solo dates - biking, massage, sunrise, museum, pottery, spend time on water

How Often Should You Go on Solo Dates?

Some people choose to schedule a self-date once a week, while others go on solo dates once a month or less frequently.

It’s really up to you, though, to make sure you follow through, we recommend setting a date with yourself at least once a month. You’re worth it!

39 Self-Date Ideas

Ready to get started?  Here’s our list of 39 self-date ideas. Many of these are free, so even those on a tight budget can enjoy some quality self-dating time.  

Which of these self-date ideas sounds most fun to you?

  1. Book a Table for One: Enjoy a meal at a restaurant you’ve always wanted to try.
  2. Visit a Museum: Spend the day absorbing art or history at your own pace.
  3. Take a Cooking Class: Learn how to make a dish you’ve always loved.
  4. Go for a Hike: Connect with nature, breathe in fresh are and enjoy some physical activity.
  5. Attend a Creative Workshop: Be it pottery, painting, or writing, pick something that intrigues you.
  6. Have a Movie Marathon: Watch back-to-back movies or binge a series in your cozy nook.
  7. Plan a Spa Day at Home: Pamper yourself with a bubble bath, face masks, and relaxation.
  8. Do a Bookstore Binge: Take your time browsing and settle down with a warm drink and a good book.
  9. Take a Day Trip: Explore a nearby town or natural reserve you’ve never visited.
  10. Try Out a New Hobby: Whether it’s knitting, photography, or gardening, give it a go.
  11. Go to a Wine or Cheese Tasting: Savor the flavors and learn something new.
  12. Take a Long Drive: Listen to your favorite music or podcasts as you drive with no destination in mind.
  13. Visit an Aquarium or Zoo: Enjoy the calm of watching marine life or the excitement of wildlife.
  14. Plan a Picnic: Pack your favorite foods and head to a beautiful spot.
  15. Join a Fitness Class: Try yoga, spinning, or pilates.
  16. Go on a Bike Ride: Explore your city’s bike paths or scenic routes.
  17. Enjoy a Morning at the Farmers Market: Sample fresh produce and local goods.
  18. Take a Coffee Shop Break: Savor a coffee while reading or journaling.
  19. Go Antiquing: Find unique items and treasures.
  20. Plan a Meditation Retreat: Spend a day in quiet contemplation or guided meditation.
  21. Visit a Botanical Garden: Take a leisurely walk in the tranquility and beauty of flora.
  22. Take a Dance Lesson: Whether it’s ballroom, salsa, or hip-hop, move to the beat.
  23. Spend Time by the Water. Whether at a beach, lake, or river, find peace near water.
  24. Take in a Sunrise or Sunset: Find a perfect spot to enjoy the natural beauty that unfolds before you.
  25. Plan a Fun DIY Project at Home: Get creative with a home improvement project or craft.
  26. Take a Walk Somewhere You Scenic You’ve Never Been: Discover new paths in your neighborhood or city.
  27. Attend a Silent Disco: Dance like nobody’s watching (because they’re not).
  28. Visit a Historic Site: Learn about history first-hand because it’s interesting.
  29. Go Stargazing: Find a dark spot and a clear night and marvel at the night sky.
  30. Schedule a massage:  Your aching muscles will thank you. 
  31. Plan a Digital Detox Day: Disconnect to reconnect with yourself.
  32. Get on a Boat, Kayak or Canoe: Enjoy the serenity of paddling on the water.
  33. Attend a Lecture or Talk: Expand your knowledge on a topic of interest.
  34. Take a Goat Yoga Class: Those adorable baby goats are pretty fun.
  35. Visit a Cat Cafe:  Love cats?  You’ll love sipping a sumptuous drink at a cat cafe.
  36. Plan a Theme Day: Dedicate a day to exploring everything related to a specific theme, such as baking, gardening, or “blasts from the past.”
  37. Go Ice Skating or Rollerblading: Enjoy the fun of gliding on ice or pavement.
  38. Sign up for a Painting Class: Let your inner artist come out and play.
  39. Start a Joy Journal:  Download B&C’s free Happiness Journal to get started.

Solo Dating as a Way to Nurture Your Soul

Learning how to love yourself and offer yourself the TLC you need and deserve will improve the quality of your life tenfold. Solo dating is merely one of many avenues for developing a soul-nourishing relationship with yourself.

According to Silvi Saxena as reported through Choosing Therapy, “Self-love is like watering our souls with the nutrition we need to grow and sustain ourselves. Just like we water our plants and flowers, we must pour this nurturing into our own selves to ensure we don’t wither away.

Solo Dating Is an Act of Self-Care and Self-Love

Go on a self-date, have fun, and enjoy yourself.

And, if you’re ready to take the next step on the self-love journey, be sure to explore Believe and Create’s Ultimate Guide to Starting a Self-Love Practice. It offers all you need to know to keep the fires of self-love burning bright.

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